When a Mate Is Unfaithful

Who Is RESPONSIBLE?

Granted, in some cases an innocent mate's imperfections may have contributed to a strained relationship, yet the Bible states that "each one is tried by being drawn out and enticed by his own desire. Then the desire, when it has become fertile, gives birth to sin." (James 1:14, 15) Although there may be various contributing factors, a person's "own desire" is primarily responsible for his adultery. If a spouse's failings cause marital problems, committing adultery is certainly not the way to solve them.—Hebrews 13:4.

Instead, marital problems can be solved when both husband and wife persevere in applying Bible principles. This includes "putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely." They should also persist in displaying such qualities as "the tender affections of compassion, kindness, lowliness of mind, mildness, and long-suffering." Most important, they should "clothe [themselves] with love, for it is a perfect bond of union."—Colossians 3:12-15.

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